You talk about that one cannot say just because the a person who has been abused or has gone through a tramatic event is still convicted and punish for a crime you cannot equate that to a sin or shunning someone.
According to the VA PTSD for veterans can lead to the following family issues:
Male Veterans with PTSD are more likely to report marital or relationship problems, higher levels of parenting problems, and generally poorer family adjustment than Veterans without PTSD. (2,6,7) Research has shown that Veterans with PTSD are less self-disclosing and expressive with their partners than Veterans without PTSD. (8) PTSD Veterans and their wives have also reported a greater sense of anxiety around intimacy. (7) Sexual dysfunction also tends to be higher in combat Veterans with PTSD than in Veterans without PTSD. (9) It has been posited that diminished sexual interest contributes to decreased couple satisfaction and adjustment. (10)
So should these indviduals get a pass for everything because they have experienced negative effects, even though they aren't committing crimes. Should there marriage mates have to suffer through all the ordeals if they aren't strong enough themselves to deal with what is happening. Should children be required to suffer through a parent's alcholism or other negative effects from that disorder just because it isn't technically classified as abuse. The list goes on and on. Should an employeer have to suffer through a subpar employee because of the event.
Yes, victims of child abuse do suffer for a life time and may never recover from that experience. But that does not negate completely how society expects them to act in general, they are still required to meet normal social contracts with general society.